It is important to do a constant introspection of life to see if you are growing. I know for me growth is vital and oftentimes it’s hard to differentiate between grooming negative things or watering positivity. Whenever I am unsure I pull back from family and friends just to think and have a dissected conversation with the inner woman. I was once called a recluse and as much as I wanted to deny it; it is the truth. I blaze my own trail and my playground is adventurous.I’ve never needed a ton of friends to make me happy just one good one to share a couple laughs with. However, as life would have it I have a big personality that draws people to me like a magnet (which is beyond my control) and they tell me just about ANYTHING…and I mean ANYTHING. I finally asked an associate one day why they were so comfortable in disclosing such a morbid side of their life with me and the response was ” I just know that it’s ok and you create a sense of safety ”
In that moment I myself was having a conversation with myself “huh safety?” I won’t say I’m a great listener but I’ve walked many walks in this life to not be judgemental and my ability to hold is like a sponge that absorbs water, maybe that’s what many see but sense of safety was a new level for me…
The truth is I don’t polish things up and put a cherry on the top if my advice is asked. I keep it brutally honest and expect the same from others.
You see society has taught us to hide things whether it’s by hiding behind makeup, telling white lies, physical enhancements, pretending to live a life we can barely afford and showboating for likes and shares on social media which in turn has produced a puppet/shadow syndrome. I beg to ask
1. Are you portraying the real you?
2. Can you become unmasked in a relationship and reveal the REAL you?
3.Is it possible to stand alone for something you believe in while others disagree?
4. Are you a leader or simply following the masses?
If you can honestly answer these questions then you my friend are well on your way.
The best thing for one’s soul is too stand, walk and live in one’s truth for that and THAT ALONE will set you apart from others and lead you to your path of happiness whatever that may be.